On Caring for Our Elderly Parents

One person caring about another represents life’s greatestvalue.”-Jim Rohn

Watching our parents age can be quite difficult as their bodies take on new challenges that as a child, a mature child, an adult child with a family of one’s own, we have no control over. It’s sad. I am lucky that my 89 and a half year old mom lives nearby, less than 5 minutes away in her own home. She has no nurse, no companion, no one coming in to clean or prepare her meals. I am grateful to be in good health and able to address her needs, so far. If my mind wanders to “What if…” scenarios, then depression can easily set in and rearrange my gestalt. So…what to do? Put a smile on my face, put one foot in front of the other, take my morning walk, kiss my husband good morning and believe in the promise of a new day. This land of aging “was made for you and me.” Last night I watched the Woody Guthrie 100 Year Celebration at the Kennedy Center on PBS with so many great folksingers, my generation and younger, so, to lift my spirits and perhaps yours, here’s a great collection of folksingers singing “This Land is Your Land” with Ramblin’ Jack Eliot, Jackson Browne, Judy Collins, Nora Guthrie, Tom Morello ( a real activist that Woody would’ve been very proud of!) John Mellencamp, Ani DiFranco, Sweet Honey in the Rock and more: 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

8 Real Life and Doable Tips for Not Feeling Bored And For Not Depending On Others To Spare You from Boredom

  • Get Chores Done Early so you can…
  • Visit elderly relative or someone you take care of
  • Order books through the public library and read, read, read
  • Develop an interest you can pursue right in your home (Reading? Blogging? Research? Cooking? Music?

I guess I am lucky that I inherited from my 89 year old mom the gift of not feeling bored or the need to be surrounded all the time by people. It’s a blessing. Thank you, Mom!

 

3 Real Life Tips for Helping Elderly Parents Care for Their Teeth

Mom had a flare up by her upper left teeth. We know from past experience that another dentist wanted to perform root canal, but at 89, mom is not going through that again. She did it once on one tooth, it went well, but it wasn’t something she wanted to repeat. So Sunday morning when she said it hurt to chew on left side, I told her to

  • STOP eating on left side of mouth.
  • Brush gently.
  • Use warm saltwater rinses.

Monday morning she called me very happy and said she had NO pain!  Now I know a miracle did NOT occur, but the above real life tips helped, momentarily.

I was able to get an appointment with our beloved and compassionate dentist in our hometown yesterday afternoon. His wife, who is also his dental hygienist and an equally beloved and compassionate person, took an x-ray, cleaned the area gently and put on some sort of seal. For now, all is ok. If mom has another flare up that doesn’t respond to good dental care and/or Amoxicillin, we’ll get her tooth pulled. We know a wonderful father and daughter team of oral and maxillofacial surgeons that we’ve used previously for oral extractions and implants.

I hope when I see mom this morning, all will be calm, her teeth will feel fine and no emergencies on the horizon. One day at a time folks, one day at a time!